Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman.
While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.