Many women dream of having a baby girl. As girls grow up, the sweet innocent girl changes into a teenager. You have been warned, "Just wait until she's a teenager!" You are told preemptively that a teenage girl's final years in the home should be a season to just survive.
Kari Kampakis, author and blogger, suggests it's time to change the narrative and mind-set that leads moms to parent teenage girls with a spirit of defeat, not strength. As we improve the foundation, habits, and dynamics of the relationship, mothers will connect with their teen daughters and earn a voice in their lives that allows moms to offer guidance, love, wisdom, and emotional support.
Kari is a mom of four daughters (three of whom are teenagers), and she learned the hard way that as girls grow up, mothers have to grow up too. In Love Her Well, Kari reveals ten ways that moms can better connect with their daughters in a challenging season, including:
- Choosing their words and timing carefully
- Listening and emphasizing with her teen's world
- Seeing the good and loving her for who she is
- Taking care of themselves and having a support system
- And more
This book isn't some guide to teach mothers how to fix their daughters or make them behave. Instead, it's about a mom's journey, doing the heart work and legwork needed to love a teen while still being a strong, steady parent. Kari covers how every relationship consists of two imperfect sinners, and teenagers gain more respect for their parents they can admit (and learn from) their mistakes, apologize, listen, give grace, and try to understand their teen's point of view. Teenagers do need rules and consequences, but without a connected relationship, parents may never gain a significant voice in their lives or be a safe place they long to return to.
Kari gives mothers hope and reminds them all things are possible through God, by admitting her personal failures and prideful mistakes that have hurt her relationships with her teenage daughters. By leaning on God, mothers can gain the wisdom, guidance, protection, and clarity they need to grow strong relationships with their daughters at every age, especially during those vital teen years.